We Deceive Ourselves in Love, Says Psychologist
People often deceive themselves when seeking love, warns evolutionary psychologist Prof. Aleksandra Szymków-Sudziarska. She explains that humans instinctively present idealized versions of themselves to attract partners—an ancient strategy rooted in evolution.
“Love evolved to build stable bonds for raising offspring,” Prof. Szymków-Sudziarska said.
But today, these behaviors can distort how we see ourselves and others. This self-deception, while not malicious, may block authentic relationships. The psychologist highlighted that recognizing these patterns helps individuals build deeper, more honest bonds.
Our brains, she added, are wired to avoid discomfort, making us blind to mismatches or red flags. Prof. Szymków-Sudziarska emphasized the importance of self-awareness in romantic relationships, stressing that being honest with both ourselves and our partners is essential for lasting intimacy. Experts agree that understanding how biology shapes love can transform modern relationships.
